Happy Anniversary

Sitting here drinking my coffee and SMILING!   12 years ago I met Alex in a night club - Polly Esthers in San Francisco.   I was in a dark place in my life.  Just got out of an abusive relationship.  I was insecure, super emotional and a WRECK!  But my girlfriends at that time insisted that I get dressed up and head out for girls night.  Even my grandma forced me to go!  LOL!   The last thing I wanted to do is being around BOYS!  I got dressed and off I went.  Never knew that God had a plan for my life.   

When I first laid eyes on Alex I thought he was a weirdo!  The reason being he just keep staring and staring.....Smiled at me but that was it.  I kept telling my girlfriend "Who is this guy!".  He finally said something!  But not to me, to my friend.  And I know oh great here we go!  He has told her that I was cute and he liked the way I danced.  I smiled at him and made my way to him and said "Do you have something you want to tell me?" (I was pretty bold back then!).  We then preceded to flirt back and forth and FINALLY he asked me to dance.   We danced and talked the night away.  It was like a fairy tale - Here's some nice, handsome man whisking me away in La La Land.   Our conversations were very interesting.   We both tried to impress each other knowing it was more funny than anything.  We talked about our past relationships, placed we've traveled - The funny thing is two weeks prior we were both in Vegas AT THE SAME TIME!   We were definitely meant for each other.  And we talked about our future (marriage, kids, you know the basics).   After a few hours we were sitting in this bus in the basement of the club and it hit us:  Where are our friends!  We had ditched them to hang out together!   Sadly all good things must come to an end.  We found our friends and we were all going in different directions.  I did not want to leave.  I just wanted to stay and continue our talks....it was like it was just him and I in the club.  What attracted me was his personality.  He was funny, smart and could carry a conversation.  Mind you I was NOT looking for anything but something kept tugging at me.  We exchanged number, hugs and off we went.  Part of me knew that I would never see him again - That was the fear kicking in.  But my girlfriend kept saying that I would.  Fast forward 12 years and we are still together, in love, still have interesting conversations and we can still dance the night away.  

Our eight years of marriage hasn't always been peachy.  We've hit some rough patches along the way.  We both came from messed up relationships and we carried those issues into our relationship.   We disrespected each other, said ugly words and even got to the point of DIVORCE.  We've had financial issues, communication issues and personal issues.   We went thru counseling, drank to our problems, threw our issues under the rug and what not.   Of course during our rough patches we have many fun memories together.   We know how to have fun.  We know how to make each other laugh.  We know what makes each other happy.  I truly believe that is what has kept us together.  We knew there was more to our life than all the bickering.  But in order to grow together we had to fix things.  That is when we gave our life to the Lord three years ago.  By that time we were tired and it was our last chance at saving our marriage.  Earlier when I said God had a plan - Oh he did and always does.    Now that doesn't mean that day all our issues were swept away.  If anything it was harder.  But we knew that centering God in our marriage it was going to be more peaceful when we argued.   We've worked our butts off these past few years.  Letting go of the past, being able to forgive each other, truly understanding that marriage is NOT just a piece of paper (Can't stand when people say that!) and knowing that God knew exactly what He was doing 12 years ago.   We've been able to re-new our vows, participate in marriage courses, be a testimony to others and the best gift so far is having Maximus.   

Marriage is about Love and Respect.  Without those two it won't work.   You have to be willing to work together as husband and wife - not against each other.  When I told Alex that I would marry him I told him that I'm only getting married once so if we have to go to hell and back I'll do it.   We been thru hell and back and let me tell you it's been worth it.  He's my best friend, my partner, my husband and the father of my son.  I look forward to another eight years of hard work, laughter, tears, memories  and children.  

Maximus, when you read this and you wonder how Mommy and Daddy met you will know that we couldn't keep our eyes off each other.   We knew that someday you would come along and we will tell you the funny story of how we met.  But aside from that we will teach you what marriage is about in Gods eyes.  You will Love and Respect your wife.  Just like we love and respect each other.  

My best friend read this at my wedding and to this day we live by it

We love taking pictures - We love smiling - We enjoy LIFE together.  Thank You Lord <3 

When I become the mother of your child I simply fall in love with you all over again.  My life was complete.  Seeing you as a father now blesses me everyday.  You're more handsome and loving than ever.  I'm PROUD to be your WIFE!